Comments on: It’s the straight men, silly

By: pepomint

pepomint — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 22:57:58 +0000

I think it is in the Bisexual Resource Guide (the last printed version) and I think it is by Robyn Ochs.

Oooh. I’ll go look this up. Not frustrating at all – these sorts of lists are really community resources, and so finding new sources and integrating them is always good.

By: anonymous

anonymous — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 01:07:07 +0000

Um, reading your list I’ve now remembered reading an essay with a similar list about “how to treat bi people”. I think it is in the Bisexual Resource Guide (the last printed version) and I think it is by Robyn Ochs. I’m not certain of either of those things (although I could go try to find it in the printed book. I just tried to find it online and failed to find it. Which may mean it is not online. I looked at BRC and at Robyn’s site.) Anyway, I’m still interested in your list and I hope this footnote is not wildly frustrating (in terms of re-inventing the wheel.)

By: pepomint

pepomint — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 22:27:58 +0000

I got two more:

8) Don’t assume they are hypersexualized or “trysexuals” or any such crap. Bisexuals have the same sex drive on average as anyone else. Do not hypersexualize them. Do not assume bi women are sluts or insatiable.

9) Use the B-word, assuming they used it first. Use it any time you describe their sexuality. Do not cover it up with other umbrella terms like “queer” unless that’s what they use. Do not use phrases like “fencesitter”, “swings both ways”, etc. These are generally just excuses to avoid saying “bisexual”.

And probably something about remembering that bisexuality is not a sign of mental disease.