As an older not so experienced poly person by self definition, I found this discussion extremely helpful. I feel at this point in my life there is a flowering within me in how I define “possibilities” in my relationships. At this point I am not in any relationship, but I am open in my immersion in the poly group that I find I really like to see what presents itself over time. There is new joy also in not having an agenda other than learning and growing.

To me, the feeling of openness is what feels most true and real within as opposed to the agendas I used to have in who and what I wanted in any a partner. Certainly, two forays into serial monogamy taught me a lot about programming vs real life experience.

The other thing that I find extremely exciting is that I can learn from poly f2f discussions as well as online since the workshops such as the HI ones are priced out of bounds for me.

Thanks, all, for much food for thought.